Ed Note: At the end of each year we here at VanEd determine which of the hundreds of previous posts have impact beyond any one year or any one issue. We select these posts to Rewind, republish and reflect upon. They touch on the concept of generosity and the unwavering spirit our authors, partners, affiliates, students, staff and most of all our families and friends. We share these posts as a reminder of how the most successful people in the industry reach out every day, and hope they give you ideas on how to implement the concepts into your practice in the coming year.
Life Lessons: How to Teach Your Kids about Safety and Strangers
Strangers are everywhere. Most strangers that your children meet will be nice people, but a few may not be. Parents can protect their children by teaching them how to recognize suspicious behavior and what to do when that happens.
Begin by Defining "Stranger"
Start by teaching young children what a stranger is: a stranger is anyone that your family doesn't know well. It's important to teach them that not all "bad strangers" look scary or scruffy. A bad stranger could be the woman at the park, the man in a business suit or the grandpa at the grocery store. You must teach children that you cannot tell if a stranger is nice or not nice by looking at them. They must be careful around all strangers.
But not all strangers are bad. Children need to be able to recognize strangers they can go to for help. Point these helpful strangers out to your kids, including police officers, firefighters, teachers, principals and librarians. It's also important for children to always go to a public place for help, such as a fire station, a grocery store, a library, or a school. Be sure to point these places out to your children.
"No, Go, Yell, Tell"
Next, teach your children what behaviors to be suspicious of and what to do if they run into strangers who act suspicious. In any situation where a child may feel threatened, he should follow "No, Go, Yell, Tell." In a dangerous situation, your child should say NO, run away, yell as loud as he can and tell a trusted adult what happened right away. The following are situations that a child should be suspicious of and tell an adult about.
- Someone asks her to disobey her parents or do something without permission
- Someone asks him to keep a secret
- A stranger asks her for help
- A stranger asks the child to go somewhere with him
- Someone asks the child to do anything that makes the child uncomfortable
The following situations should be discussed with your children. What would they do? Be sure to walk them through the correct things to do and why the situations are dangerous.
- A nice-looking stranger approaches your child in the park and asks for help finding his lost dog.
- A woman who lives in your neighborhood-but who your child has never spoken to-invites your child into her house for a snack.
- Someone offers your child a ride home.
- An adult that your child knows says or does something that makes them feel bad or uncomfortable.
- While your child is on her way home from a friend's house, a car pulls over and asks her for directions.
Here are some additional things that you can do to keep your kids safe:
- Be sure you know where they are at all times and who they are with. Have a phone number where you can reach them.
- Be sure your kids know all your phone numbers and where you are. If your child cannot remember your phone numbers, write them on a card and have them carry the card with them at all times.
- Teach your children that they cannot go anywhere without your permission and make them do periodic check-ins.
Teaching your kids what to do in any situation is the key to keeping them away from situations that can turn out badly. So, teach your children what a stranger is, who they can trust, and what to do in suspicious situations.
Guest author Andrew Wooten was the President of Safety Awareness Firearms Education (S.A.F.E.), and spent more than twenty-five years teaching safety to Real Estate Professionals, Law Enforcement and children.
At a RAPDD conference attended by VanEd, Andrew delivered a keynote address to fellow instructors and education directors where he promoted the idea of the power of saying "thank you" to those who may not hear it enough. That became a take-away for our team that we carry forward still today. On Tuesday, February 26th, 2013 Andrew passed away while serving as an instructor during a real estate continuing education program.
Prior to becoming an adviser for the National Association of REALTORS® Andrew had offered his expertise and information to our students. We have re-posted his series of articles in memoriam of his exceptional service to us and the industry, and this is still one of our favorite articles ever written for us.
So to Andrew from all of us who continue to benefit from your teaching and the joy you shared with those who knew you, Thank You. You are missed.
"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was 'thank you,' that would suffice." --Meister Eckhart, German theologian and philosopher
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